Most of us have gone through a time in life when it felt like we were stuck: unable to deal with our issues, change in useful ways, or make our lives the way we wanted them to be. It’s often not for lack of trying. You read the books, you followed the exercises, you maybe even saw a therapist…but it just didn’t help. On today’s episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore why feeling stuck happens, and what we can do about it.
Rick shares a simple framework we can approach change through before Forrest digs into the six key factors that prevent us from changing and keep us feeling stuck. They talk about self-acceptance and how we can relax our attachment to the current version of ourselves, before moving on to factors that affect motivation. They then discuss working with fears, becoming courageous, and leaning into a more authentic version of who we are.
Key Topics:
- 0:00: Introduction
- 1:25: What we can (and can’t) change
- 4:15: Taking inventory: What hasn’t worked?
- 9:00: Seeing what’s true
- 15:25: Holding onto an identity, recognizing your defenses, and experimenting
- 29:55: Motivating yourself, and releasing feelings of guilt
- 36:35: Secondary gains
- 46:30: Courage, boredom, and fear of the unknown
- 50:20: Appreciating how our environment influences us
- 55:40: Seeing what’s already working, and getting new inputs
- 1:04:00: Authentically being you
- 1:06:55: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.
