In this New Year’s episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest make the case that most resolutions fail because they focus on the wrong things: outcomes and behaviors rather than key values. They explore how we can identify our important values, embrace caring about them, and start to let them change our behavior. Forrest talks about how we can differentiate authentic values from “conditions of worth,” and Dr. Rick shares a number of ways to get more in touch with what matters to you. Topics include translating “shoulds” into values, experiencing more autonomy and agency, creating personal narratives, and finding your “stance toward the year.”
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Key Topics
- 0:00: Intro: values, self-concept, and levels of action
- 7:22: Living from states of having, doing, and being
- 13:09: Stances toward life based in threat versus opportunity; what are you paying attention to?
- 20:18: Examining “shoulds” to find and define your authentic values
- 33:30: Emulating the people you admire and respect most
- 41:55: Strategies to identify your root values
- 54:05: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.
