We spend a lot of time discussing how to improve our relationships – how to navigate conflict effectively, communicate more skillfully, and create a romantic relationship that’s truly fulfilling – but we’ve spent very little time talking about how to get into one of those relationships in the first place.
Today, Forrest and I talk about how to maximize your chances of finding a fulfilling long-term relationship. We explore how to develop a clear intention of what you want, the key psychological skills that invite a healthy relationship, and how to “market” yourself authentically while dating.
Key Topics:
- 0:00: Introduction
- 1:55: What supports people in finding a long-term partner?
- 4:35: Having a clear intention
- 8:45: Psychological skills to maximize our chances of finding a long-term relationship
- 12:15: Marketing and sorting through suspects
- 14:40: Intention expanded
- 22:15: Psychological skills expanded
- 22:50: A healthy sense of self-worth
- 26:10: Being aware of your selection biases
- 29:35: Communication skills
- 34:30: Seeing the best in one another
- 37:30: Settling anxious and avoidant tendencies
- 42:00: Resting in presence with someone
- 43:15: Not letting the perfect be the enemy of the good
- 44:25: Marketing explained
- 55:00: Authenticity
- 58:20: Recap
