In this episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Becky Kennedy joins Forrest for a conversation about building better relationships, with ourselves, our partners, and our children. They talk about Dr. Becky’s framework of “good inside,” and how we can apply it to ourselves. Dr. Becky explains how many of the struggles parents face trace back to their own childhood experiences, and suggests how we can reparent ourselves by learning emotional regulation, working with shame, and becoming sturdier. They also cover the limits of behavioral control models, deeply feeling kids, maintaining boundaries when things get hard, and building connection capital.
About our Guest: Dr. Becky is a clinical psychologist, founder of Good Inside, and author of the book by the same name. She has over 4 million social media followers, and is one of the most influential people in the world of parenting today.
Key Topics
- 0:00: Intro
- 1:51: Self-development and individual agency in parenting
- 7:37: Dr. Becky’s process for addressing problematic behaviors
- 12:48: Parenting as an opportunity for personal growth
- 16:26: Becoming “sturdy”
- 19:13: Two jobs of a parent: boundaries and empathy
- 28:29: Reparenting ourselves
- 38:40: Shame and deeply feeling kids
- 44:39: Building connection capital
- 50:06: Resilience over happiness
- 57:28: Does parenting content increase parental anxiety?
- 1:02:30: How to grow as a parent without shame or self-blame
- 1:07:06: Repair in relationships
- 1:13:27: Gentle parenting vs sturdy parenting
- 1:18:33: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.
