Cognitive bypassing occurs when we overthink to avoid feeling uncomfortable emotions like sadness, fear, or anger. In this episode, Forrest and Dr. Rick share their personal experiences with cognitive bypassing, and explore how we can step out of our heads, get in touch with our emotions, and live a more fulfilling life.
You’ll learn why people can’t just “feel their feelings,” the function of cognitive bypassing, how we can use cognition to create space for our emotions, and practical tools for connecting with the non-cognitive aspects of our experience.
Key Topics:
- 0:00: Introduction
- 2:00: What is cognitive bypassing?
- 3:05: How cognitive bypassing comes up in therapy
- 6:10: The function of cognitive bypassing
- 11:10: Does insight lead to action?
- 18:45: “Feel your feelings” vs. self-actualizing
- 24:50: Leveraging your cognition to create space from your feelings
- 30:00: Body sensations and self-compassion
- 33:15: Relating to others
- 38:55: Practical steps to being in touch with yourself
- 42:20: Intensity, valence, and opening to empathy
- 45:15: Rigidity and resistance
- 50:00: The range of possibilities within your constraints
- 56:35: Recap
