Why do New Year’s resolutions usually fail by February? In this episode of the Being Well Podcast, Forrest and Dr. Rick explore why traditional goal-setting falls short and offer a new approach to creating lasting change. They discuss how we can uncover our authentic wants and needs, move away from a punishment mindset, and use our new knowledge to find fulfillment. This episode will teach you how to get more out of any other New Year’s content you listen to.
Rick and Forrest walk through a practical example of brain dumping “shoulds,” shifting the focus from means to ends, and working with internal resistance. They end the episode with a role-play focused on working with someone who wants to find a more meaningful relationship.
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Key Topics:
- 0:00: Introduction
- 2:35: A sense of fulfillment, and other healthy ways of orienting to our goals
- 14:00: Cataloguing our “shoulds”, and being driven by a sense of enthusiasm
- 23:20: How Forrest has personally connected with his authentic wants
- 30:15: The “punishment part”
- 35:50: Practical techniques for identifying our values
- 41:45: A roleplay of how to find a meaningful relationship
- 51:25: Reviewing the roleplay
- 55:05: Knowing your why
- 59:50: Developing your personal psychology, and surrendering to the best within you
- 1:03:40: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.
