So often we judge ourselves harshly — reacting quickly, closing off, or staying angry even when we “know better.” But beneath every reaction, even the messy or neurotic ones, is a good intention trying to protect or guide us. In this talk, Dr. Rick Hanson explores how to reconnect with our innate goodness, see the good intent beneath our reactivity, and find conviction in taking the higher road — with compassion for others and ourselves.
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Talk: Appreciating Your Own Generosity and Good Intentions
Timecodes & main topics:
- 00:00 – The Core Question: If our nature is already pure and wise, why do we have to work so hard to act like it?
- 03:27 – Seeing Good Intent Beneath Behavior: Even harshness or withdrawal arises from positive aims like safety or honesty.
- 06:57 – Layers of Reality and Ordinary Goodness: From global suffering to everyday kindness, Rick highlights the countless acts of generosity in daily life.
- 13:45 – The Generosity of Attention: Being open to feedback, keeping our word, and showing up with integrity — these are quiet forms of generosity we often overlook.
- 14:55 – The Global Compassion Coalition: Rick shares about the coalition’s mission to make compassion a force for systemic change — and invites generosity of support.
- 16:36 – Anger, Conviction, and the Better Way: How to use anger wisely without being used by it — blending moral clarity with compassion.
- 20:17 – The Two Ponies: Inside each of us are both reactive and wise motivations — which one do you ride?
- 23:47 – Real-Life Application (Madison’s Example): Efficiency vs. kindness in moments of reactivity — and how to build conviction in choosing the better way.
- 31:18 – Conviction and Confidence: Developing faith in what truly serves you — and refusing to be controlled by old reactive patterns.
- 34:55 – Boundaries and Compassion: Handling difficult people without taking on their chaos. “Not my monkey, not my zoo.”
- 36:30 – Closing Reflection: Finding gladness in your goodness — appreciating the generosity at the heart of your own intentions.
A Meditation: Calm and Openhearted
When life feels busy or your mind won’t settle, it’s easy to lose touch with the simple goodness already inside you. This guided meditation helps you release tension, rest in calm awareness, and open your heart with kindness and compassion. Over time, it’s a gentle way to come home to yourself — peaceful, present, and already enough.
