You have a tendency toward
Anxious Insecure Attachment.
You may often worry that others will pull away or stop caring about you, and feel a strong need for reassurance in relationships—though that reassurance may not fully land. It’s common to feel “too much,” or to fear being abandoned, even when things seem fine on the surface.
Why this matters:
These patterns usually form in childhood, when connection felt inconsistent—sometimes present, sometimes not. Your nervous system learned to stay alert, scanning for signs of disconnection. The good news is that these patterns are learned—and that means they can be unlearned or reshaped with care and support.
You can start healing by:
- Noticing moments of ongoing connection, and really letting them sink in.
- Practicing self-soothing and inner reassurance before seeking it from others.
- Shifting from complaints about the past to respectful requests for the future.
- Reminding yourself regularly: “I am worthy of love even when I’m not performing for it.”
With small, consistent steps, you can feel more secure—and experience relationships as sources of peace, not anxiety.
You Can Feel More Secure in Your Relationships
If you sometimes feel anxious about closeness, fear abandonment, or find yourself needing extra reassurance—you’re not alone. And most importantly: you’re not broken.
I’ve created a free email series, Stepping Into Secure Attachment, filled with small, practical ways to soothe anxious reactions, build inner steadiness, and experience more peace, connection, and trust in your relationships.
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