Being Well Podcast: How to Find a Long-Term Relationship: Intention, Skills, “Marketing”
December 6, 2021

We spend a lot of time discussing how to improve our relationships – how to navigate conflict effectively, communicate more skillfully, and create a romantic relationship that’s truly fulfilling – but we’ve spent very little time talking about how to get into one of those relationships in the first place.

Today, Forrest and I talk about how to maximize your chances of finding a fulfilling long-term relationship. We explore how to develop a clear intention of what you want, the key psychological skills that invite a healthy relationship, and how to “market” yourself authentically while dating.



Key Topics:

  • 0:00: Introduction
  • 1:55: What supports people in finding a long-term partner?
  • 4:35: Having a clear intention
  • 8:45: Psychological skills to maximize our chances of finding a long-term relationship
  • 12:15: Marketing and sorting through suspects
  • 14:40: Intention expanded
  • 22:15: Psychological skills expanded
  • 22:50: A healthy sense of self-worth
  • 26:10: Being aware of your selection biases
  • 29:35: Communication skills
  • 34:30: Seeing the best in one another
  • 37:30: Settling anxious and avoidant tendencies
  • 42:00: Resting in presence with someone
  • 43:15: Not letting the perfect be the enemy of the good
  • 44:25: Marketing explained
  • 55:00: Authenticity
  • 58:20: Recap

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