Being Well Podcast: Fierce Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
June 7, 2021

People generally think of self-compassion as a “soft” emotion that helps us comfort, reassure, and nurture ourselves. Today a pioneer in the field of compassion research, Dr. Kristin Neff, joins the show to explore the fierce side of self-compassion, including how it can help us draw healthy boundaries, take necessary action, and stand against injustice.



About Our Guest:

Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She conducted the first empirical studies on self-compassion almost twenty years ago, and is the author of Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. On June 15th she’ll be releasing her new book: Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power and Thrive

Key Topics:

  • 1:50: How is fierce self-compassion different from “typical” self-compassion?
  • 5:50: The balance of fierceness and tenderness.
  • 7:45: The importance of fierceness for women.
  • 17:15: Practices that support fierce self-compassion.
  • 20:30: Applying fierce self-compassion internally.
  • 25:40: The harms of traditional gender role socialization.
  • 32:10: What behaviors were you rewarded for?
  • 34:45: Research on the value of self-compassion.
  • 40:40: The impact of self-compassion on motivation. 
  • 45:15: Committing to our own well-being.
  • 50:45: How men can support women.
  • 55:00: A message to your younger self.
  • 57:15: Recap.

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