On today’s episode, we explore: why we’d want to forgive someone who hurt us; the two kinds of forgiveness; how we can disentangle from others, or move to a full pardon for what they did; creating a coherent narrative around what happened; and how we can know when it’s right to extend a full pardon.

Let’s say someone truly mistreated you, or made a serious mistake. After you deal with the consequences and assert yourself as you judge best, then what? When it feels right, there’s truly a generosity to forgiving someone else, which is often also a kindness to yourself.

On today’s episode, we explore:

• Why we’d want to forgive someone who hurt us.
• The two kinds of forgiveness.
• How we can disentangle from others, or move to a full pardon for what they did.
• Creating a coherent narrative around what happened.
• How we can know when it’s right to extend a full pardon.

Timestamps:

• 0:50: What are the two kinds of forgiveness?
• 2:20: The challenges of forgiveness.
• 7:10: The real goal of disentangled forgiveness.
• 8:10: What needs to happen before we disentangle?
• 11:10: Creating a coherent internal narrative.
• 14:45: Using forgiveness as a balm to our wounds.
• 15:30: Suggestions for disentangling.
• 21:40: How can we know when it’s appropriate to extend a full pardon?
• 26:45: Remembrance and responsibility.
• 28:15: A story of full-pardon forgiveness.
• 31:50: Taking a wide view.
• 34:15: Recap

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