Being Well Podcast: Why Don’t We Get Better?
January 2, 2023

This is the Being Well podcast’s five-year anniversary, and over that time we’ve all grown and changed a great deal. And even so, for many people some things remain very difficult to change, leaving them wondering why don’t we get better over time? It’s easy to feel like even after all this time you’re still pushing the same old rocks up the same old hills.

On today’s episode Forrest and Dr. Rick explore why we struggle to change that which matters most to us, how much change is realistically possible, what makes real change hard, the hidden barriers to lasting change, and what we can do about them.

Key Topics:

  • 0:00: Introduction
  • 3:55: Why do you want to change?
  • 4:50: Four fundamental strategies
  • 7:00: Three common issues
  • 9:20: Effort, skillfulness, and luck
  • 12:40: Remembering that you get to choose
  • 13:50: “Tailwinds” to help yourself
  • 17:30: Secondary gains, avoiding change, and naming payoffs and costs
  • 24:15: Levity and affection for yourself
  • 27:15: Starting by owning that we choose our behavior
  • 30:10: Resistance and the parts of us that don’t want to change
  • 34:00: Framing, starting with benefits, and absolving shame
  • 39:35: Tactics vs. Strategies
  • 42:30: Celebrating small change, aiming for big healing
  • 46:40: Recap

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