We all think of stress as “bad” for you, but what if some forms of stress could actually help us grow and change for the better? On today’s episode of Being Well, Forrest and Dr. Rick are joined by Dr. Elissa Epel, a psychologist and leading stress researcher, to explore the science behind the stress response.
They explore different forms of stress, what separates “good” stress from “bad” stress, how we can take advantage of good stress, and dealing with existential forms of stress like the climate crisis.
About our Guest: Elissa Epel is a psychologist, bestselling author, and a Professor and Vice Chair in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. Her research focuses on stress, well-being, and optimal aging. She’s also the best-selling co-author of The Telomere Effect, and her newest book is The Stress Prescription: Seven Days to More Joy and Ease.
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0:00: Introduction and critiques of the podcast
4:45: Where we place our attention
8:00: Two kinds of complaint
8:55: Self-righteousness and identifying with our complaints
11:25: What do we hope to accomplish by complaining?
13:15: Sharing experience vs. asserting information
18:35: Developing relationships where your vulnerability is welcome
24:45: Projecting your unclear desires on other people
28:10: How to respond to negative feedback and manage your reactions
32:00: Releasing attachment to changing others and responding to trolls
39:00: Complaints come from emotional dissatisfaction