Being Well Podcast: Learning When to Let Go
July 12, 2021

Most personal growth content out there suggests having a “never give up” mindset. But the truth is that a big part of life is learning when to let go and deciding when it’s time to stop investing our limited effort into that job, skill, or relationship that’s no longer serving you.



Today Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest explore how to determine when it’s time for things to end, dealing with disappointment, giving ourselves credit for our good efforts, and getting excited about what’s to come.

Key Topics:

  • 2:15: Being sure you’re not ending too soon
  • 4:50: Improving distress tolerance vs. protecting yourself
  • 9:50: Trusting the past
  • 13:30: What keeps people stuck: sunk cost fallacy
  • 14:30: The longing for a just world
  • 16:50: Dealing with disappointment
  • 22:00: Optimism, and turning toward the future
  • 24:30: Understanding the limitations of our environment
  • 27:15: Redefining success
  • 30:05: Knowing you gave things your best effort
  • 32:00: Impulsivity
  • 33:30: Unilateral virtue
  • 37:30: Finding your five
  • 39:30: Helping other people feel heard
  • 42:45: Being clear about the “last chance”
  • 45:30: The fear of change, and turning toward the future

52:45: Recap

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