Being Well Podcast: How to Effectively Communicate What You Want
September 26, 2022

On this episode of the Being Well Podcast, we explore best practices to effectively communicate so we can claim and express our needs. This includes navigating shame and inhibition, making effective agreements, being considerate of the person on the receiving end of our wants, and becoming more skillful at negotiation and repair.



Key Topics:

  • 0:00: Introduction to Effectively Communicate with others
  • 2:05: Getting real about meeting our needs
  • 7:10: Suppressing needs due to self-worth challenges
  • 8:35: Patience, making your offering, and tipping points
  • 11:45: Inhibition, and negotiating our needs with other people
  • 15:50: Non-Violent Communication and “Wise Speech” models
  • 26:30: The need for multiple cycles to effectively communicate
  • 28:20: Expecting defeat, and two big moments of pain
  • 32:10: Keeping agreements
  • 37:45: Confidence in the ability to repair
  • 39:35: Considering the person on the receiving end of your communication
  • 43:00: Generosity
  • 45:15: Questions to ask when feeling uncertain about how to express a need
  • 49:30: Death by a thousand cuts, and facing discomfort
  • 52:10: Asking others, “What else do you want from me?”
  • 54:30: Recap

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