Being Well Podcast: How Not to Become Your Parents
May 27, 2019

Today we’re continuing our series on “Who Am I” by taking a look at where those tendencies come from, and how we can work inside ourselves to relate to them and others more effectively, and how not to become our parents.

We all have tendencies in our relationships, and particularly our important ones. Maybe we’re very self-assured, or trust quickly, or need a lot of space between ourselves and others. Maybe we have more destructive tendencies, or find ourselves in cycles where the trajectory of all our important relationships tends to look the same.

Today we’re continuing our series on “Who Am I” by taking a look at where those tendencies come from, and how we can work inside ourselves to relate to them and others more effectively.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • What “object relations” and “attachment theory” are, and why they’re so important for understanding our personal development.
  • Why we sometimes feel like we’re living out repeated cycles of behavior.
  • Why those cycles are so challenging to break, and what we can do about it.
  • How we can become more aware of our messy interiors.

I hope you enjoy it!

Timestamps:

  • 01:48: Do we have repetitive patterns in our relationships?
  • 10:12: Social learning and object relations.
  • 21:16: What can we do to be more aware of those damaging patterns?
  • 24:18: Once we’ve recognized those damaging patterns, how do we change?

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