Being Well Podcast: Creating a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Earnshaw
November 15, 2021

We all want a relationship that’s more than just functional, we want one that’s truly fulfilling. On today’s episode, Forrest is joined by a wonderful therapist and author who focuses on giving people the tools they need to communicate, navigate hard times, and create deeper connections with other people: Elizabeth Earnshaw. 



They explore: 

  • How the pandemic impacted our relationships
  • The Gottman approach
  • The stages of a relationship
  • Balancing differing needs for intimacy
  • How to request, and give, repair.

They then close the episode with a fun game focused on debunking common relationship myths.

About our Guest: Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the founder of A Better Life Therapy, and the author of I Want This to Work. You might also know her as @lizlistens on Instagram, where she’s helped countless people transform their relationships.

Key Topics:

  • 0:00: Introduction
  • 1:45: Elizabeth’s background
  • 5:30: How did the pandemic impact relationships?
  • 7:30: Responding to stress in relationships
  • 9:00: Co-regulation
  • 11:15: Punishing others for our unpleasant emotions
  • 13:45: The four stages of relationships
  • 17:50: What to look for in a partner
  • 20:10: The “Four Horsemen” of bad relationship communication
  • 24:25: Key skills for navigating conflict together
  • 27:00: How to request repair from your partner
  • 34:10: Deciding if you should leave
  • 37:45: Interdependence
  • 41:30: Balancing differing needs for intimacy
  • 46:30: The Instagram Meme Game: Common misconceptions about relationships
  • 47:30: “Partners should share everything with each other”
  • 50:30: “Your partner should be your ride or die”
  • 52:15: “Never go to bed angry”
  • 54:50: “My partner is my missing piece”
  • 56:35: “If you can’t handle me on my worst day, you don’t deserve me on my best day”
  • 1:02:05: Recap

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