Being Well Podcast: Connecting with Others: How to Attune

March 8, 2021

What is attunement? Which of your relationships fill you up? During this time of increased isolation our needs for connection are harder to meet than ever. Today, Rick and Forrest are exploring how we can use the psychological technique of “attunement” to connect better with others, and meet our own need for connection.

Key Topics:

2:15: Moments that satisfy our need for connection
5:45: The “Still Face Experiment”
8:55: Attention, availability, responsiveness
10:35: Which relationships fill you up?
13:50: What is attunement?
18:40: The “emotional risk” of attunement
24:30: Paying attention
31:20: Being open to being changed
33:10: Do I matter to you?
37:30: Availability and co-regulation
41:15: “Our interactions are systems”
42:30: Rick pushes back a bit on co-regulation
44:50: The impact of our nature on how we view interactions
47:45: Becoming responsive
52:40: Communicating wants and needs
57:40: Respecting your own needs
59:15: The impact of social power and privilege on our interactions
1:04:30: Recap

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