Being Well Podcast: Building the Perfect Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin
February 22, 2021

Relationships are hard, and making them last is even harder. Today we’re exploring finding safety, common principles, and fairness in our relationships, as well as trusting your partner’s experience – and the most important characteristics in a life partner – with a wonderful clinician, teacher, and researcher: Dr. Stan Tatkin.

About our Guest: Dr. Stan Tatkin is an expert on human behavior, and particularly the unique dynamics found in couples relationships. Dr. Tatkin is the creator of PACT: the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, and the author of six bestselling books, including Wired for Love, Wired for Dating, and We Do.

Key Topics:

  • 1:45: The importance of attachment
  • 5:30: What happens when children are neglected?
  • 9:00: Finding safety in our relationships
  • 13:30: How to build safety through physical cues
  • 19:10: Apology, and building a culture in our relationships
  • 23:00: Finding common principles
  • 31:00: Dealbreakers, and entering relationships intentionally
  • 37:00: Fairness in our relationships.
  • 45:30: Being and staying interested
  • 49:15: Trusting your partner’s experience
  • 54:50: The most important characteristics in a life partner
  • 57:00: What’s the most important thing you do each day for your own well-being?
  • 58:30: A message to your younger self
  • 1:00:00: Recap

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