We all know that change is inevitable in life, and getting good at changing is one of the most important skills we can develop. It’s also one of the most difficult to master, as so many parts of who we are tend to resist change.
On today’s episode of the Being Well Podcast, writer and coach Brad Stulberg joins Forrest Hanson to explore how we can reshape who we are, navigate and embrace change, and become more resilient.
About our Guest: Brad focuses his work on the philosophical and psychological foundations of excellence, and the habits and practices necessary to attain it. He’s a regular contributor at The New York Times and the author of a number of wonderful books including The Practice of Groundedness and his most recent book Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing – Including You.
Key Topics:
- 0:00: Introduction
- 1:15: How Brad Stulberg has come to think about change
- 3:30: The myth of homeostasis, and allostasis
- 6:55: Suffering, resistance, and rugged flexibility
- 13:00: Creating a more flexible identity
- 20:30: Not going ‘all in all the time’
- 24:30: Constraints that support a healthy amount of ego
- 28:20: Brad’s personal challenges and supports in finding insight
- 34:00: Waiting to find meaning until after moving through a difficult change
- 39:15: Our perception of time slows during distress
- 41:25: Pounding a stone, and sticking with a process
- 45:55: Developing and retaining a sense of self-efficacy
- 49:20: Expecting discomfort
- 51:10: Turning hobbies into work, nurturing curiosity, and being a beginner
- 55:05: Values and perspectives
- 1:00:00: Shaking the snowglobe, then letting it settle
- 1:03:10: Five questions from Brad’s book to ask yourselves
- 1:04:15: Recap
