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Being Well Podcast: Learning to Trust Yourself: How to Stop Self-Abandonment
February 10, 2025

In this special episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore becoming more self-reliant and learning to trust yourself. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. They start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. Forrest introduces a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable.

Key Topics:

  • 0:00: Introduction
  • 1:10: Why learning to trust yourself is easier for some people than others
  • 4:30: An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable
  • 9:50: Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility
  • 14:10: Sticking up for yourself
  • 19:55: Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless
  • 25:00: Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment
  • 30:15: Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others
  • 35:00: Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal
  • 41:35: Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world
  • 48:55: Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity
  • 55:15: Recap

Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.

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