In this special episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore becoming more self-reliant and learning to trust yourself. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. They start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. Forrest introduces a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable.
Key Topics:
- 0:00: Introduction
- 1:10: Why learning to trust yourself is easier for some people than others
- 4:30: An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable
- 9:50: Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility
- 14:10: Sticking up for yourself
- 19:55: Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless
- 25:00: Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment
- 30:15: Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others
- 35:00: Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal
- 41:35: Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world
- 48:55: Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity
- 55:15: Recap
Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.