Being Well Podcast: Should You Become A Parent?
October 23, 2023

On today’s episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest Hanson focus on one of the most important decisions we’ll make in life: the choice to become a parent.

They focus on what good parenting looks like in practice, the key difference in thinking of a child as a “means” or an “end,” and how to know whether becoming a parent is the right path for you. 

Key Topics:

  • 0:00: Introduction
  • 2:20: The significance (and uniqueness) of this choice
  • 4:50: Being aware of your motivations for having a child
  • 16:55: The influence of primal biology
  • 20:50: Qualities of a good parent
  • 30:30: Mirroring, idealizing, twinship, and the process of differentiation
  • 36:35: Optimal frustration, and a healthy parental work ethic
  • 41:25: The rewards of being a parent
  • 46:45: If you don’t like __ you shouldn’t become a parent
  • 48:50: A word for current parents who wish things had been different 
  • 53:00: Community, partnership, and resources
  • 55:10: Meaning and fulfillment with or without a child
  • 1:00:50: Recap

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